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Dubbed a "Bisexual Mega Influencer" by NY Daily News, Zachary Zane, sex columnist and Editor-in-Chief of BOYSLUT Zine founded the BOYSLUT party after noticing something was missing from the traditional gay sex club scene.

As the adage goes, sex sells. And it sells everything, from cigarettes to hamburgers to shampoo. But when you need to sell sex, what do you do?

If you’re Daniel Saynt, self-described “Chief Conspirator” of private, members-only sex club New Society for Wellness, or NSFW, you cloak it in mystery and exclusivity.

There’s an app for that

For people like Mark and Juicy_Peach420 who happen to live in New York City, there is a new hookup app designed to assuage their oral sex frustration.

When it comes to sex positions, we generally gravitate toward positions that are easy to pull off and that feel really great. Positions that are too strenuous—say, the helicopter position—might not be doable for more than a few seconds. Where's the pleasure in that, besides getting to check it off your sexual bucket list?

We know: Butt plugs can be super fun.

It’s not surprising that you’d want to enjoy that frisky feeling all day long. It certainly could make the day-to-day a lot more fun, amirite?

But before you attempt to wear a butt plug for an extended period, there are some things you need to know.

After many long months of everyone being their own safest sex partner, what do sex parties look like now?

Daniel Saynt, who runs sex ed workshops at The New Society for Wellness, told Insider in 2018 that pegging had reached a new high in popularity.

"It's gained in popularity over the past 10 years with an increase in pornographic videos featuring the act and a new found comfort in men who have begun to realize that the reasons they've never tried anal is due to a fear of being identified as homosexual," Saynt said.

"Through most of the past century, the media and society as a whole have taught men that it isn't 'masculine' to enjoy anal sex. Many men have been trained to believe that if they enjoy anal sex they are on a path to homosexuality, even if they have never had sexual desires for men."

Pegging as a political statement

"Peg the patriarchy" is a slogan playing on the image of a cisgender woman pegging a cisgender man.

Daniel Saynt, the founder of sex-and-cannibis-friendly private-members club the New Society for Wellness, admits this wand is not exactly travel-size, but recommends it to anyone looking for “a multifunctional pleaser” while away. It comes with a few attachments — a standard head, one for more targeted stimulation, and another for internal stimulation — all of which can be used with one of the toy’s five vibration modes and six speeds. As Saynt puts it, this wand “provides endless options” when it comes to self-stimulation — something you may want if you’re traveling for a long period of time.

New York-based sex and cannabis club New Society for Wellness, or NSFW, also saw membership jump. Daniel Saynt, self-described chief conspirator of NSFW, said the club's membership doubled during the pandemic to over 6,000. Some days, NSFW receives 50 to 100 applications for new members.

Saynt attributed at least some of this growth to the club's virtual parties over the pandemic, where non-New Yorkers had a chance to experience what NSFW had to offer (albeit, through a screen).

Now that lockdown mandates have significantly loosened, the world is starting to wake up after a long and socially-restricted slumber. While we’re not fully out of the woods yet, vaccinated people are starting to (cautiously) step outdoors, embracing all of the opportunities that quarantine deprived us of: going to the movies, hanging out with friends closer than six feet apart and embracing a newly-heightened sexuality. I’m calling it now: 2021 will be the summer of sex clubs.

After a year where sex was essentially banned, sex club organizers and punters are ready to seize every opportunity a post-pandemic world can offer

After more than a year of being kept from mingling, millions of Americans are eager to return to exploring play and pleasure. Adult stores anticipate growth of over $8 billion.

Even before the pandemic, more people began to practice non-monogamy — a blanket term for a relationship philosophy that includes more than one partner — and there's no sign of that stopping anytime soon.

The truth is that dating as a gay, bi+, or pansexual man can be as messy, unfulfilling, and complicated as “Queer As Folk” makes it seem.

But it doesn’t have to be. These tips can help!

Daniel Saynt, founder of the New Society for Wellness (NSFW), who suggests the issue is more of a psychological one for most men.

“So many of the shortcomings that men deal with privately can be attributed to low self-esteem due to size of penis or body dysmorphia, depression, stress, anxiety, the pressure to perform or to have sex when they don’t want to,” he says. “Men are expected to lead. They are expected to know how to please [their partners.] They are expected to always come or be rock hard. They’re expected to always want sex and to know what we’re doing without any education outside of porn. They are expected to have a certain body type.”

Ah, orgasms! Who doesn’t love them? There are so many ways to achieve the big O, from jacking off to intercourse to playing with sex toys (hi, vibrating cock rings). But your penis isn't the only way to experience such pleasure. In fact, if you're looking for a toe-curling, mind-blowing orgasm, you might just find it...in your ass.

Sex-positive groups didn't abandon one another during the pandemic. Now that venues are reopening, the bonds that tie them together are even stronger.

Last month at a bar in New York City, where more than 30,000 people have died from COVID-19 and lives are still claimed by the virus each day, a seemingly intoxicated guest walked in and told a bartender who was delivering drinks, “Let me hug you!”

“After having such a long period of time after we’ve had to be socially distanced, I feel like people are going to be longing to go back to that, to a standard of connecting with people through a hug, something that feels familiar,” says Daniel Saynt, founder of the New Society For Wellness, a sex-friendly private members club based in New York. As he’s welcomed guests back into his establishment of late, he’s observed some people break down in tears over experiencing their first hugs in over a year. “There is an importance for people to incorporate hugging into more of how they connect with people,” Saynt says. “But it’s also important, obviously, to ask for consent and make sure you’re confirming that person wants to be hugged. In doing so, you’re going to help heal a lot of the damage and trauma that was caused over the past year and a half, and I think that’s very important for everyone to consider.”

Somehow, somewhere, someone has decided that May is “Masturbation Month,” and if you think about it, there’s never been a better time to explore a little self-stimulation, now that we’ve had more than a year of self-isolation.

There are plenty of resorts around the world eager to greet people like these with open, oiled up arms. Whether you’re an experienced swinger or a young couple looking to test the lifestyle for the first time, the one thing everyone talks about after visiting is how welcoming this community is.

Buying lube can be, at best, embarrassing and, at worst, downright confusing, especially if the only type of lube you’ve purchased before is from the drugstore. But if you have resigned yourself to a life of using less-than-perfect lube (or you’ve avoided it entirely), you probably just need to try a different type to notice better results.

As much as sex-positive folks love to say, “Consent is sexy,” and, “If it isn’t a ‘Hell yes!’ it’s a ‘No,’” (two statements I wholeheartedly endorse), the omnipresent existence of rape culture makes understanding the intricacies of consent a bit difficult.

For those who want to keep using Instagram, Daniel Saynt, founder of sex-positive club NFSW, has a few tips. Saynt has been banned from Instagram multiple times, but managed to get his accounts recovered by asking other account holders to message Instagram on his behalf to ask for his account to be reinstated. “Unfortunately,” he says, “when you’re doing things alone you have little chance of getting your account back, but when you’re doing it collectively the amount of messages Instagram receives is enough to make them take notice.”